Is your ADHD Relationship in need of repair?
Do you feel like the person you are now married to is not the same person you took your vows with? Do you wonder how that great courtship that seemed like you were with the person of your dreams turned into something closer to a nightmare?
Relationships where one or both partners have ADHD, as I mention in my book, The Couple’s Guide to Thriving with ADHD, can be very challenging, and can bring a lot of heartache. You may be recently married, or have been together for years. Either way, it can seem like no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get on the same page.
Whether you are the ADHD partner or the non-ADHD partner (the one without ADHD), you may feel like you’ve given it all you’ve got, and it just isn’t getting any better.
When ADHD is present in your relationship…
If you are the non-ADHD partner you might experience some of the following:
- You could feel unloved and sometimes ignored.
- You feel overwhelmed and exhausted with so much responsibility for the things that need to get done to keep your home running.
- Important dates are missed or forgotten completely by your partner leading you to believe they see you as unimportant.
- When promises and commitments are broken, you’re left wondering if it’s on purpose.
- A conversation you recently had seems to have been totally forgotten, or completely misinterpreted. You wonder what you have to do to get your partner to really hear and remember what you say.
If you are the ADHD partner you might experience some of the following:
- You feel unappreciated, as you are doing your very best, but your partner complains that you are just not doing enough, or you are doing it wrong.
- You may feel confused or inadequate, and may even want to agree with your partner’s assessment that you can’t stay on track, can’t stay organized, can’t keep things clean, or can’t complete anything you start.
- You experience feelings of overwhelm when there seems like there’s so much to juggle, and never enough time to do it all.
- Wondering how you get your partner to stop all the nagging and controlling?
Does this sound like your partnership?
Do you see yourself and/or your partner in some of the bulleted items above?
Do you find yourself asking, “Will this ever get any better?”
There are so many opportunities for break-downs and mis-communication on both sides. It can seem like it’s almost impossible to come together in a place of mutual understanding, cooperation and loving..
But what if there is denial around the ADHD?
You may be in a relationship where you know or suspect your partner has ADHD, but they are resisting being formally diagnosed, accepting the diagnosis, or being treated. This can leave you feeling alone, unhappy and very frustrated.
Why my unique background will matter to you
You need a professional who has training and expertise in ADHD, has had personal experience with it in my own marriage (see Meet Nancie), and, most importantly, wants to support you in finding answers that will help you move forward in the direction of a better life.
Let’s talk about your challenges and
what we can do together
Someone who understands what you are going through can make the difference between feeling like there is hope, and feeling all alone. If you recognize yourself in any of the scenarios above, I support you to contact me right away at (949) 922-8548 or fill out my Contact Page.